7 Reasons to Shut Up When Talking to a Woman

The temptation to brag about one’s self when in the presence of ladies can sometimes be unimaginable.
There are tonnes of advantages of talking less when you are on a date with a girl

1 – You will appear more mysterious and charming. The more you let her talk, the less she will know about you. This will make her wonder about you when you’re not around therefore increasing interest levels.

2 – The more you say, the more chance you have of saying something stupid.

3 – The less you say, the more valuable everything you DO say will be perceived. (Rarity is perceived as being valuable.)

4 – You will give her the chance to express herself, and talk about her day. Two things women love to do

5 – You won’t appear desperate or insecure. People who brag and talk all the time are constantly trying to get attention and make people approve of them. By talking less, you will appear more cool, confident, and in control!

6 – The less you say, the less you will have to worry about figuring out something to say.

And remember, when you do say something, it should be brief and to the point. Or better still, it could be simple feedback concerning something she has just said to you.

The key is to keep the conversation on her. Only then will you truly know how to deal with her.

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I’m a heartbreaker…..or am I???

I’ve heard lots of talk in regards to men and breakups. Things like “When a guy’s relationship ends, he replaces her. When a woman’s relationship ends, she mourns and cries for months,” or “Guys just don’t care” and lots of other nonsense.

Take a look at some of the universal truths about guys and breakups, most of which will surprise you.
Breakups are HARD on all guys.  Simple enough to say, but the fact is: If a guy is terrible after a breakup, it is just prove to how rough the breakup was on him. Some people cope by lashing out.
But what about the guy who breaks up and goes totally cold?

Jerry Seinfeld once said that breaking up a relationship needs to be like taking off a Band-aid – One motion: OFF! In the same regard, when a relationship ends, it is much much harder for a guy to go back and discuss and revisit and talk through and explain.

Guys like focused on a tight range of emotions, somewhere between amusement and happiness. So any interaction that a guy knows will bring him out of that sweet range of emotions is an interaction he’s going to do everything he can to avoid.
When a guy breaks up with his lady and immediately gets into a new relationship right afterwards is a no-brainer; a guy does this because he doesn’t want to be alone and he doesn’t want to “deal with himself.” Guys need to work their internal issues out, which brings me to another question…
But what about the guy that “goes off and starts hooking up with every girl?
Every guy has a set of core values for who he is, what he stands for, and what he really wants out of life. Sometimes in a relationship, a guy will really, really love a girl and may start to compromise these core values. Maybe he changes his lifestyle, stops hanging out with certain friends, or changes his habits.
It seems innocent enough, but over time the guy begins to starve for whatever it was he got from the things he gave up. It changes the guy and, in turn, changes the relationship. As a result,  the relationship usually suffers and, in the case of this example, ends.
When the relationship ends, that guy is forced to evaluate himself – he doesn’t like who he’s become and he doesn’t like the fact that his relationship and his love brought him to this place.
So what’s the solution? Hook up with a bunch of girls and have a series of flings.

Sooner or later, a guy will come to a place of reconciliation with himself, it’s essential that he does before he starts another relationship.
Long story short, if a guy acts extreme after a breakup, it’s his way of dealing with his emotions about his relationship and relationships in general.

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The Forbidden Word!!

If I wrote a dictionary, the word “SHOULD” wouldn’t be found. I try not to use it with myself and try even harder not to use it toward anyone else.
Think of all instances where the word is used 
….
Maybe they were mad at you,
so they told you what you should do.

Or they thought you were “wrong”, so they told you what you should do.

“should” is a punishing word.
When we’ve messed up and are beating ourselves up, we use the word “should”.
“I should have done this, but I…”
“I shouldn’t do that, but I…”
 
Should is the word people use to blame and shame one another and themselves.
It NEVER feels good.  And we can’t help but resent people who “should” us.
If possible rip the word “should” out of your vocabulary for all your relationships.
blaming kills relationships and “should” is the word for shaming and blaming.
 
Try your best to understand
your partner’s perspective.  
DO NOT underestimate the effect of blame destroying a
relationship

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Misery Loves Company

If you’ve been seeing a girl for a couple of weeks and things are going well, take a look at her friends. If most of them have boyfriends, Great! If they’re pretty much all single, WATCH OUT.

Misery Loves Company. And there’s no better example than women and their friends. Whether they admit it or not, no woman likes to be single alone, and they sabotage each other by trying to slip in evil seeds of doubt.

This is one of the reasons why ALL married women try to hook up all their single friends by playing matchmaker whether they like it or not. They know their friends will try to make her miserable along with them.

P.S. To get in good with her friends, all you gotta do is give ONE totally romantic night that she can tell all the details to her friends about, and they’ll eat you up thinking you are Prince Charming in disguise.

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Get your mind right or……

Human beings tend to hold on to old beliefs and old mindsets that don’t serve us.
Some mindsets can even be very destructive to your relationships, but still we hold on 

Most reasons are:
 
– These are beliefs that we’re used to
– The mindsets served us right at one time or another
– The feel like this particular belief “protects” us
– The mindset makes us feel like we “belong” to an inner circle of peers / friends
 
But the WORST mindset of all is the stupid belief of “men vs. women”.
 
I’ve met men who hate women on some level. They must have felt cheated or rejected by women, or they had a few bad
experiences and became bitter and angry from it.
The fact remains: Guys who have something against women WILL ALWAYS FAIL in relationships, and the same is true for women.
 
Most women who FAIL in relationships usually have something against men.
They might not necessarily hate men, but when gender topics come up, they are always blaming and attacking men saying women are a victim to men.
Blame in general is relationship-killer 
People are people.  Some people are great, caring and loving why other are not
But if you have the attitude that men are bad, you will bring about bad situations
with men.
The truth is most women hate on men. It’s done in subtle and not-so-subtle ways over the media. I know girls who spend their time talking about how much they hate men… and the other half about how much they want a relationship.
It’s tough and we ALL have had bad dating experiences at
one time or another.
 
But the more you can
appreciate men and have a positive view
of men, the better your relationships will be.

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We haven’t spoken for ages, should I text him?!?

Ladies!!! Don’t read too much significance into just one text message.
I mean…if she text a guy and he responds doesn’t mean he likes you or maybe you’ll start dating…

And if he doesn’t respond, doesn’t mean he doesn’t like you and her chances with him will be gone forever.
 
It’s normal, In fact it is one of the most common and
most damaging mistakes women
make with men, especially in the beginning of the relationship,
which is:
 
They jump WAY ahead and imagine crazy scenarios and freak themselves out.
Don’t, just think positive and take it day at a time!!!!

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Tell me what you want from me?!?

Men and Women are opposites.
Very simple yet complex

Men are –

Women are +

Men want x

Women want y

Men think women want x

When women really want y

After years of brainwashing (media), men are so confused by the idea that women want the same thing they want, basically an opposite of themselves.

Men are turned off by lesbian women.

Women are turned off by feminine men.

It’s so easy to explain, but is so hard to fix.

Next time you (a man) wants to act like a girl, go and purchase two magnets and you will see that opposites attract.

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